Shock and disbelief “The country is in a state of shock and disbelief,” one report announced.  Is it? Why? I thought bleakly. There is no more grim inevitability than violence against women. My husband told me the news that Ashling Murphy had lost her life just hours after it happened. “I can’t believe it,” he said. “Really?”  I’m sorry to say I felt nothing, only weary resignation that we were doing it all again.  Ashling Murphy woke up on Wednesday and thought about the day ahead. She smiled and chatted to her boisterous students. She wanted to go for a…